Sick of fighting? Who isn’t? Good news is you can make a few Feng Shui changes in your home to help reduce the bickering. Here are 11 Feng Shui tips to bring peace and better communication into your life.
Hang a Crystal if You Have Too Many Doors in One Area
If you have too many doors in one area, oddly, it can cause fighting. Hang a 50 mm crystal near the door to disperse the negative vibes.
Add Splashes of Yellow Around
Yellow is the color of communication. Adding little splashes of it in the areas of the home where you frequently hang out can help improve communication. The good thing with Feng Shui is that nothing needs to be seen to work, so you can do something as easy as adding a yellow piece of paper in drawers or books in the different rooms in your home.
Sit Next to Each Other While You Eat and Relax vs Across from Each Other
Where you sit in Feng Shui has a lot to do with how well you communicate. When eating, it is best to sit next to each other (think sitting 90 degrees from each other) across from the person vs sitting across from them. Sitting directly across from a person you regularly argue puts you “head to head” with each other and is often the root of many arguments.
When hanging out in the Living Room or Family Room, if you are not both on the couch together. It is better to sit next to each each other. This is a better position for establishing equality.in your relationship. .
Arrange Primary Living Room Furniture to Be Next to Each Other Versus Across from Each Other
People in homes with the most frequently use furniture at 90 degrees from each other versus directly across from each other tend to have better communication. If you are struggling with too much fighting in your home, try to arrange the furniture so your favorite chair and his favorite chair are next to one another.
Have Identical Nightstands and Equal Access to the Bed
What someone is doing too much of or not enough of is one of the primary reasons we fight. In the Bedroom for both romantic reasons and to support restful sleep, it is important that both sides of the bed are equal. This supports equality in the relationship which will go a long way in improving communication. To achieve this, have identical night stands,, lamps and equal access to both sides of the bed. If one person is slammed against the wall while the other person can easily get in and out of the bed, the person “squished against the wall” probably feels that same way in the relationship.
P.s. I think equality on both sides of the bed is important whether you are in a relationship or not. Setting up an environment that feels equal – especially in the room where you spend the most time – will help in all aspects of your life.
Hang a Crystal if You Have Two Doors that Hit Each Other When Both Open
If you have two doors that can hit each other when both are open, this is called arguing doors. There are a number of ways to fix this including rehanging the doors, but the easiest way is to hang a crystal between the two of them.
Be Careful of Having Too Much Red, Triangular-Shaped Objects and Fire Symbols
Fire energy in Feng Shui is represented by the color red, triangular-shaped objects and of course, objects that are or symbolize fire (fireplace, fire pit, candles, BBQ, objects made from or symbolic of animals, etc).
Too much of these things can create TOO much firey energy, tempers and fighting. If you can’t or don’t want to get rid of these things, add the water and/or earth elements to reduce the impact of this fire energy.
Water element includes blue and black, undulating shapes and actual water or objects symbolic of it. Earth elements include orange, browns, tans, square shapes and objects made of or symbolic of earth (stones, ceramic, concrete, pictures of mountains, etc.)
Take a Nice Long Look at Your Closets, Garages and Storage Spaces and See What You Are “Holding” Onto
Your storage areas in Feng Shui are representative of what you hold onto. This can be the good things we hold onto that are healthy and supportive, or the negative things we cling to that are unhealthy and destructive. When communication is bad and fighting is frequent, it is often because we are “holding onto” an issue or a problem we don’t want to let go.
When this happens, it is time to take a long hard look at your closets, garage and storage spaces. Start with what feels the least overwhelming and go through it all. Ask yourself if you love it dearly or use it yearly. If you love it or use it yearly keep it, and if you don’t recycle it, donate it, sell it, give it away or throw it away.
Spruce up Your Reputation Area for More Respect
If you are spending a lot of time arguing you are going to want to look at the Reputation area of the rooms where you spend the most time. To locate the Reputation area, stand in the door of the room you want to Feng Shui and face into it. Look at the far wall across from you. If you were to divide this area into three equal-sized pieces, the middle is the Reputation area in Feng Shui.
In this area, add symbols of things you are proud of, happy pictures of you and the person you are disagreeing with and symbols/mementos/reminders/people that mean respect and courage to you. Also, make sure this area is clean, clutter free and does not have any symbols or reminders of what you fight about. For example, if you fight about the bills this is not a good place to store them!
Take Down Imagery of Fighting People, People in Competition (Think Sports) or Dramatic People
The imagery in your home has a profound impact on your well-being and psyche. People who live in homes filled with happy and/or serene art tend to be much more peaceful people than those living in homes with skulls, dark or violent art. If you are concerned with poor communication, take a very close look at the art in your home. Is it people competing in sports? Animals fighting? People who are consistently dramatic? People in defensive positions? If so, take that down for a bit and see how it changes the energy of your house and communication.
Put Away Reminders of Things You Fight About
If you always fight about his mother, maybe it is best to give pictures of her in the house a little less prominence. (Although I realize this could cause a fight too.) If you fight about money, don’t leave the checkbook and the bills on the kitchen table. Put these things in a place where you will remember them, but they won’t be front and center. Extra credit if you put them in a red box or you put a red piece of tape around it to hold the energy in and not impact any other part of the house or your lives.
